My parents divorced when I was 6. Those same parents divorced again when I was 8. (Do the math and figure that out. If you can't and/or your confused call my hot line). Before I go on my endless thought pattern about the subject let me tell you I've been surrounded by some of the greatest, longest, most lovingest (if that's a word), marriages known to man, oh and "woman" cause this article is equal. (Minus Noah, he was like 900 years old, look it up. And what was his precious wife's name again? Ya, exactly).
I've known friends that got married (both female and male) to their partner after 3 months. I've known friends that married after "dating" or engaged for two, three, five, 10 years!. The difference? Nothing! Some made it and still to this day are happily married with many offspring and some, sadly didn't.
Marriage. We've all heard it. A man and a woman. Husband and Wife. 'Til death do us part. What even gets more deeper is a Latter Day Saint temple marriage. 'Til NEVER do we part. But guess what? Even those do. Although every human being would love the cloak of a bullet proof, fool proof system, it just doesn't exist. Even religion can't protect the very sacred matrimony of marriage. Because the truth is, no matter how you slice it two separate human beings are involved in it. Notice I said human. That's not to say our brothers from across the continent who think females are still one step below their beloved milk cow have a shot and deserve one. I'm talking a normal, equal opportunity country...like ours.....and Iraq and Afghanistan. Oh wait, never mind, that's a story for a different time. So....I digress.
The point is, I do not have a lot of "friends" that will read this from any third-world country. Generally, I like to think my friends are from the U S of A. Where we expect, and DEMAND certain things.
Demand our Constitutional rights! Demand our amendment rights! Wait, how many amendments have their been to "OUR" constitution? Not sure are you? Well, we all know the 1st, my military brothers/sisters will know the 2nd, the 4th because of course you can't search my/our house without a warrant and the very popular "I plead the 5th"!. Regardless of how many there are, did anyone notice if there was one that talked about our Constitutional right to be married? Sadly, no, it doesn't exist. And this is where we, as smart women and men (notice I switched the gender around so the females wouldn't bitch about always coming in second) fail.
Everyone knows I've been divorced more than necessary. I allow the jokes about it, in fact, I'll be the first one to make a joke about it. But the truth is, it is sad. It's sad to me to see good friends and family go through it. If you've ever wanted your beating heart ripped out, stomped on, and everyone you care about to laugh at it and you feel has no sympathy for your life (much like your crazy dreams) then divorce is for you. If not, it isn't. In fact, I'll go on record to say that although in hindsite I'm very glad I'm no longer married to them, it still hurt and it still effected who I was, and the decisions I made.
But, all things being equal, the point of my story is this. Please, if you've never been divorced don't think you've won some Medal of Honor above those that have. You got lucky. Why do I say that? Because how in the hell did you manage to keep your spouse from cheating? From lying about finances? From raising your kids the way YOU didn't want to? Etc, etc, etc. You didn't! You got lucky! For those of you who have experienced this torture of faith, hang in there. Maybe you are the one that screwed it up. Maybe you are not. The point is you are just as worthy of the happiness those that managed to get lucky have. If this is your 1st marriage, 3rd, God forbid 8th marriage, you are just as worthy! Why? Cause you are a human being. And I truly believe someday, someday that will be the day that-that man/woman walks into your life and you will either realize where you went wrong before, or you will trust your heart won't be ripped out again. And to you I say be happy! Find that happiness!
For that, I love that I was born when I was. Not in a time of me as a man when I get to say "I have a penis therefore you, woman, should bow down. The right to vote? In your dreams! I make dinner? Ya right! I take care of the child? Whatever! You go work? HA-HA-HA! Stay home, cook my dinner, and make my children! What a dream you have woman!"
Just as equal, a female that says "women rights movements are going strong and I'll just do whatever I want and think the man is a horrible hairy beast, screw you and screw the consequence! I deserve (and demand because I am a woman) to have the same exact (to the penny) income you have regardless of what I've done to get it! I don't need any man, and if I ever falter (for sexual purposes only) you will be the last to know! In fact, my friends just told me last night how much I don't need a man.....on their way to their husbands! Men suck!" Whew, how horrible is that for both sides.
Hmmmmm I wonder how divorce happens so easily now. Weird. I for one say that divorce is a disease that this country/society deems too readily available as an option because we haven't made it a damn Constitutional Amendment yet.
Just my two-cents!
Thank you Jeromy.
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